What to expect from therapy
A non judgemental space to explore feelings, emotions and events and that may have contributed to your problems and issues.
The following is a definition of counselling by the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy: (1985)
‘The task of counselling is to give the client an opportunity to explore, discover and clarify ways of living more resourcefully and toward well-being.’
Our current predicament
Many people simply never have the time to talk through the issues which overwhelm them and in turn never experience being actively listened to in our frequently busy lives. This has an impact by way of relationship issues for many of us.
In addition we find it difficult to find any space to think – with texts, emails and social media on smartphones all creating a background of noise.
To move on we need to understand where we are currently, this can be painful but is generally a worthwhile venture. Counselling offers no magic wand but it starts a journey, it is not about giving advice, it is about mutual exploration of issues and discovering your options.
Emotions and feelings get frozen and in a sense “locked in a box” – we dare not open the box and may use all sorts of damaging coping mechanisms. We may resort to addictions, self soothers, alcohol, smoking, relationships may flounder or we simply do not understand what is happening to us, hence we may get very angry. We can feel disconnected from ourselves.